Gender Queer

Gender Queer

A Memoir

Book - 2019
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"In 2014, Maia Kobabe, who uses e/em/eir pronouns, thought that a comic of reading statistics would be the last autobiographical comic e would ever write. At the time, it was the only thing e felt comfortable with strangers knowing about em. Now, Gender Queer is here. Maia's intensely cathartic autobiography charts eir journey of self-identity, which includes the mortification and confusion of adolescent crushes, grappling with how to come out to family and society, bonding with friends over erotic gay fanfiction, and facing the trauma and fundamental violation of pap smears. Started as a way to explain to eir family what it means to be nonbinary and asexual, Gender Queer is more than a personal story: it is a useful and touching guide on gender identity--what it means and how to think about it--for advocates, friends, and humans everywhere."--Amazon.
Publisher: [Place of publication not identified] :, Lion Forge, LLC,, 2019
ISBN: 9781549304002
Branch Call Number: TEEN GRAPHIC 306 KOB
Characteristics: 239 pages : chiefly color illustrations ; 21 cm
Additional Contributors: Kobabe, Phoebe - Colorist


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Jan 25, 2021

This was a fascinating memoir told in graphic novel format, about something I cannot (will never) personally relate to myself as a Cisgender female who is (for the most part) happy being female, but it was so well told that I could see the conflict and the yearning for "other" than what this author lived. As part of my "count" year (as in, making everything I choose to read and take on MATTER) this was a good one to include along with other-voice stories.

Sep 15, 2020

If you are ever confused or figuring our yourself, read this book!!
I felt so connected not even halfway through the book! I wish I read it or knew the things Maia knew when I was younger. Gender and sexuality is such a difficult topic. I am so glad people are sharing their stories. Growing up, I didn't understand why girls did this or why I couldn't do that; because of gender roles and I was born a girl.
It's never too late to figure your true self out.

JessicaGma Jan 03, 2020

This was a very thoughtful memoir about being nonbinary and what that can mean. Maia's journey is unique to eir, but it contains an excellent discussion of pronouns, what being nonbinary means, and how our gendered society really excludes someone who doesn't fit into boxes. I learned a great deal reading this and recommend the book to anyone with questions about nonbinary identities.

Nov 09, 2019

I am nonbinary and have struggled with a lot of the same things as the author. It was such a relief to see my experience reflected - all my life I've felt like something was deeply wrong with me for the way that I feel - not just about my gender but also about dating and relationships. I suddenly found myself crying part way through the book - I didn't realize how affirming this graphic novel would be! I'm definitely going to buy this book so I can read it whenever I start to worry about who I am. I hope someday the author finds comfort in who e is and makes a comic about being free to be who e is.

JCLBrittanyC Nov 01, 2019

This memoir describes the very honest experience Maia had discovering
eir sexuality (Maia uses pronouns e/em/eir). I feel like I’ve read quite a
few LGBTQ+ graphics now, and none have been quite as raw as this.
Maia discusses all aspects of her sexuality and what led her to identify as
nonbinary and asexual. E tells a very personal story that could help so
many. If you are looking to continue learning about various human
experiences, I would definitely recommend this read.

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Tigard_HollyCP Jul 09, 2019

This is a great read for anybody who is unfamiliar or uncomfortable with people experiencing their gender outside the binary of male and female. Maia Kobabe does a great job of humanizing eir experience with gender. Over the last few years, I have gotten to know several non-binary people who use they/them/their pronouns and I could never really understand why someone would choose to use what seemed like completely invented pronouns that most people had never heard of when they/them/their could be used singularly. Though it still feels awkward to me to use the pronouns e has chosen, eir story gave me insight into the reasons behind choosing those pronouns. I hope that this book and others like it will help open people's minds as it did mine.

JCLEmmaF Jun 20, 2019

I really love this one. This is a memoir in comics about Maia exploring and wrestling with gender, ultimately coming to rest on being nonbinary. This is so honest and clear about questions and murkiness about gender, in a way I think a lot of people would relate. And the illustrations are so cool. I like that I even got some book suggestions out of this. Big fan.

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